Wherever you go in America today,
people are having sex.
But are they really happy doing it?
Do they actually know what their partners enjoy sexually?
One tried method recommended by experts to improve sexual relations is communication.
Great sex doesn’t always come naturally.
It can be helpful to inform your partner your likes and dislikes.
Counter to our expectations, most partners traditionally lack the ability to read your mind.
Disclaimers at the onset of sexual activity can be a useful device.
Statements such as ‘I don’t orgasm from penetrative sex.’ ‘I’m in squirter.’ Or, ‘I finish really fast.’
will indicate to your partner certain factors that she or he can now take into consideration for a more enjoyable sexual encounter.
Ideally, these disclaimers can be coupled with suggestions such as
‘Touching me during sex will make me cum,’
‘keep a towel handy,’ or
‘we will need to take breaks during intercourse.’
Typically, experts distinguish between communication before, during and after sex.
Communication before sex can happen completely independent of a sexual encounter, and serves to establish general likes, dislikes, aversions or fantasies specific to a person that their sexual partner should be aware of.

Communication during sex informs your partner your desires in that moment.
This can be done verbally and non-verbally.

Verbal communication during intercourse can be arousing if presented in the form of dirty talk.
‘I need your dick inside me right now.’
‘Fuck me from behind.’
‘I want to feel your mouth on my dick.’

Non-verbal communication is ideal to show a partner how you like to be touched.
Move his hands to the place on your clitoris you would like him to touch you and put the amount of pressure on his finger that you like.

Suck her fingers the way you want her to suck on your cock.

Verbally,
This would sound more like an air traffic controller.
‘Left, left, up, a little up, no, down, more pressure.’

In the event
that your partner gets caught up in their own talking, you can communicate by telling them, ‘Shut up and fuck me.’

On (hopefully) rare occasions, your partner might be defensive about you expressing your desires.
This will have to be addressed and will either be sorted out or will lead to the end of such sexual relations and the search for a more receptive partner.

Communication after sex serves as a recap of acts that were appreciated and to remind their partner of things never to be repeated again.

‘I love the way you suck my cock.
Please never put your finger in my asshole while I orgasm.’ Oops!

To heighten the impact of communication, it is advisable to be specific.
There is evidence that keeping an open mind and shutting up and listening are also beneficial.

Experts believe communication is a balance between expressing one’s needs and understanding what the other’s needs are.

Asking your partner questions is also encouraged.

Concerns are that communication can be challenging due to the fear of embarrassment, being rejected or judged.
But statistics have shown that couples who communicate their sexual desires are happier with their sex lives and thus communicating seems worth the risk.
Fellas,
communication releases oxytocin in women, which directly affects their happiness.

And ladies,
this may seem counterintuitive, but it makes men happy when you’re happy.

In conclusion,
communication leads to better sex and more intimacy and is exactly what the doctor prescribed.
Risks and negative side
effects are minimal to none, but if they should last for more than 24 hours, see a therapist or DTMFA.
Dump the motherfucker already.
As Dan Savage would say.

Who who who killed the male contraceptive pill?

George Pincus first tested a hormonal form of birth control for men in 1957.
So why do we still not have a birth control pill for men?
History is a little convoluted.
I have a story that might give us a hint.

In 2000,
the BBC reported on a hormonal form of male contraception
developed by the Dutch company
Organon.
Scientists say the first clinical trials of male contraceptive pill suggest it is 100% effective
with no harmful consequences.

But the development of the drug came to a halt
because a larger trial in Germany
revealed that the drug had side effects
such as acne, sweating
and effects on weight, mood and sex drive.
Some of these were serious and even life threatening,
including one attempted suicide.

Wait, what?
Does that remind you of anything?
Yeah.
The pill for women.
Side effects include weight gain, loss of sex drive, depression.
On rare occasions,
death due to blood clots or strokes.

So what gives?
Anecdotal tales from researchers and doctors
point to the belief that women
would be more willing to tolerate
the side effects of the pill.

And honestly,
if you were faced with ‘possible side effects’ versus spitting out a baby each year,
you probably would.

Another obstacle, as the Vice President of Organon at the time recalls,
was the middle aged white male board executives at the pharma company.
Why, you may ask?
Well, because they would just ask each other, ‘Would you do it?’
‘No.’
‘Would you do it?’
‘No, I also would not do it.’
And that’s what happens
when the executive board elects to act as your focus group.

But there is hope yet,
and I’m not talking about heat application to the testes,
which supposedly, when done correctly, has a very high success rate.
After heat is applied to the testicles for at least two months,
it drastically reduced sperm count and sperm quality.

No, the most promising male birth control drug currently in development
could hit the market as early as 2018 to 2020.
It’s spearheaded by Elaine Lissner of the Parsemus Foundation.
This non-hormonal drug is called Vasalgel.
Vasalgel is injected into the man’s sperm-carrying tube.
The drug works by blocking sperm from being ejaculated,
even though seminal fluid can still pass through.
Because sperm is only a small part of semen, in case you didn’t know,
the blocked sperm is eaten up by the immune system,
which is actually what normally happens
if a man hasn’t ejaculated for a while.

Because semen can still pass,
there is no buildup of pressure,
which is one of the uncomfortable side effects of a vasectomy.

And, Vasalgel can be flushed out with another injection and is thus reversible.

And boys,
no need to remember to take anything every single day
or worry about side effects.
Lucky you.
but there are more methods in development
that aim at preventing the sperm from reaching the egg and fertilizing it.

Gendarussa, another non-hormonal contraception
has gone through the phase 2 human trials in Indonesia,
with reported success rate comparable to the pill for women.
It works by weakening the ability of the sperm to penetrate the egg.
The effect is short term and reversible.
And guess what?
Even an increased libido has been reported in some patients.
Now that’s a side effect I can get behind.

There is also the dry orgasm or clean sheets pill.
This contraceptive pill completely stops the release of semen
during orgasm and works by preventing the semen carrying tubes
from pushing the seminal fluid forward
without affecting the sensation of orgasm.
Tests show that the pill becomes effective within three to four hours
and lasts for 16 to 24 hours.
The added benefit of this drug
is that it would help reduce sexual transmission of semen borne diseases such as HIV.

The problem with this one
might be the objection of men to orgasm without ejaculation.
No come, no fun.

Yet another drug in development is the anti-EPPIN drug,
an approach that works by binding to the sperm surface
and thereby disabling the firm’s ability to swim towards the egg.

So back to the question why is it taking so long for these drugs to be available and in the market?

Studies have shown at this point, approximately 50% of men would be interested
and willing to take a contraceptive pill if the effects are reversible.

And even though some women wouldn’t trust a man with the responsibility of taking charge of birth control,
there are enough women that would.

So other than the chauvinist attitude of some male board executives,
what it always comes down to is money.
Clinical trials cost 100-millions of dollars,
and since unlike other drugs, birth control is taken by healthy people,
which are more likely to sue if they have those horrible side effects,
which leads to lower profit margins.

The reason the female birth control pill was invented in the first place
is that there was a champion for the idea of women being able to control their fertility.
Margaret Sanger was that champion
and with the money of Katharine McCormick,
birth control was willed into reality.

So maybe if we all started the conversation about this,
social media could become our present day champion
and maybe then pharma companies would follow.

#PENISCILLIN

I hope you learned something today kids.
Keep coming back for more.
No pun intended.
And most importantly, be safe out there.

Historically,
the burden of the consequences of sexual relations between men and women
has always been laid on the woman.

Men were encouraged to sow a few wild oats
while women were regarded as passive partners who found no pleasure in sex.

And God forbid, if women showed signs of experiencing sexual pleasure.
They were regarded as devious and even accused of witchcraft.

As expected, one of the most common side effects of sexual relations is pregnancy,
and with no birth control available,
women were forced to either carry out a pregnancy with often physical and financial hardship
or get a back alley abortion or hysterectomy
with harmful consequences to their health, often leading to death,
and infanticide was common before birth control.

The quest for birth control was led by Margaret Sanger,
whose mother endured 18 pregnancies
and who as a nurse saw the hardship of pregnancies of working class women firsthand.

Margaret Sanger opened the first birth control clinic in 1916 in Brownsville, Brooklyn,
to spread information about her work.

She published her newsletter, The Woman Rebel.
From Volume 1 Number 4, June 1914:

A woman’s body belongs to herself alone.
It is her body.
It does not belong to the church.
It does not belong to the United States of America or to any other government on the face of the Earth.
The first step towards getting life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness
for any woman
is her decision whether or not she shall become a mother.

The woman rebel was deemed obscene literature,
according to the Comstock Law,
which also prohibited the distribution of contraceptives.

Margaret Sanger was arrested and found guilty of maintaining a public nuisance
and sentenced to 30 days in jail.
When released, she reopened the clinic and persevered through more arrests and prosecutions.

Margaret Sanger’s controversial support of eugenics, the control of population growth
and the improvement of the human race
manifested in the belief that the feeble-minded
and those with transmissible congenital disease should be sterilized.

In fact, the United States had several sterilization programs at that time.

Her eugenics mission, however, seems to stem from the desire
to not have children grow up in poverty with no future,
rather than from a racist agenda.

Well, I think the greatest sin in the world is bringing children into the world
that have disease from their parents
that have no chance in the world to be a human being, practically.
Delinquents, prisoners, all such a thing, just marked when they’re born.
That, to me, is the greatest sin that people can commit.

And Martin Luther King Jr had this to say about her.
There is a striking kinship between our movement and Margaret Sanger’s early efforts.
She, like we saw the horrifying conditions of ghetto life.
Like we, she knew that all of society is poisoned by cancerous slums.
Like we, she was a direct actionist. A nonviolent resister.

In 1921, Margaret Sanger founded the American Birth Control League,
the precursor to the Planned Parenthood Federation.

In 1951, Sanger persuaded Gregory Pincus,
an endocrinologist who had achieved in-vitro fertilization in rabbits
to work on a birth control pill.

Katharine McCormick, heiress to a great fortune with a degree and interest in biology,
provided most of the money for the research.
McCormick was a women’s activist and suffragette
who even helped Sanger by smuggling diaphragms into the country.

Since contraception was illegal in the U.S. at the time,
clinical trials were conducted in Puerto Rico.

But when large numbers of women dropped out of the study due to the severe side effects
the pill was given to women locked up in a Massachusetts insane asylum without their consent
or informing them of the nature or side effects of the pill.

Eventually, it was decided to actually tell Puerto Rican women what the pill was for,
and they signed up by the hundreds,
but they still weren’t told that they were part of a clinical trial or that the pill was experimental.

The study deemed the pill effective.
However, 17% of participants suffered from side effects
such as nausea, dizziness, headaches, stomach pain and vomiting.

In 1960, the FDA approved Enovid, the first female birth control pill
with the same side effects as in the clinical trials.
Enovid contained ten times the amount of hormones necessary for effective contraception
and side effects were not disclosed to women.

In the 1965 Supreme Court case, Griswold versus Connecticut,
the court ruled that the private use of contraceptives was a constitutional right,
thus putting an end to the Comstock Law.

The pills hormone levels were only reduced as a result of the Nelson Pill Hearings in 1970.
100 word insert on the potential side effects was mandated to be added
to every package of the pill.

At the hearings, Alice Wolfson, a women’s activist in the audience,
jumped up and asked,
‘Why is there no pill for men?’
No women were asked to testify at these hearings.

Today, we ridicule the endless list of side effects in medical commercials,
but only the struggle to disclose the side effects of the birth control pill
gave people the right to know what side effects medications cause.
It also led to the consent requirements medical studies must abide by today.

But most importantly, the pill give women control over their fertility
and the choice over when and if to have children.

This was a prerequisite for the path to equality for women at the workplace
and also enabled the sexual revolution of the 1960s and 70s.

It allowed women to have sex for pleasure without the fear of pregnancy.
Legally, women couldn’t refuse sex with their spouse until 1993.

So now is the time to even the playing field
and put our efforts into bringing a form of male contraceptive pill to the market.

Cunnilingus or eating pussy
is a very enjoyable sex act for both the receiver and the giver.

Now I know that pleasing the vagina might be scary for some of you, but fear not.
It takes practice and a willingness to learn
and you can do it.

Here are some tips for you aspiring pleasure givers.

Talk to her,
every woman experiences sex differently,
so talk about her likes,

If you’re the giver, ask her questions,
read her body cues, tell her to show you.
If you’re the receiver,
give feedback, both verbal and nonverbal.

And remember, sex should be fun, so be playful.

Make her feel at ease.
Oral sex can be a very emotionally challenging experience for some women.
Make her feel comfortable about her pussy.
Say ‘I love your pussy.’
‘I love the way your pussy smells.’
‘I love your taste.’
Everyone likes to be stroked.
The ego first and then the clitoris.

Foreplay

Now, some of you might be thinking, hey,
I thought eating pussy was foreplay.
It can be.
But treat cunnilingus like its own sex act.
Work up to the clitoris.

Before we go on, let’s run through the basics.

Work up to the clitoris.
Make her wait.
Teasing her will only make her beg for your tongue.
Approach slowly.
Kiss her.
Play with her breasts.
Kiss her stomach.
Run your teeth along the inside of her thighs down to her pussy.
Let her feel your breath on her clit before you touch it with your tongue.
The pussy is like water.
You’ve got to heat it up before you can get it to boil.
The dick is like fire.
It can be switched on and off in seconds.

Your dick will probably be hard doing this.
That doesn’t mean you have to use it.
Stay focused on her.

Involve other areas of her body.
The clitoris can get overstimulated and sore, so be gentle.

The nerves of the clit run through other areas of the vulva.
Explore.

Try to elevate her pelvis with your hands or a pillow.
Grab her hips, touch her breasts, hold her arms down and squeeze her thighs.
Some, even like a little bit of butt play. A finger in the butt.
But ask first.

Don’t ever lick or touch the anus before the vagina.
That might cause UTIs.

Use your hands.
Be ambidextrous.
A lot of ladies, like one or two fingers in their vagina while your mouth is busy.
Touch the G-spot with a ‘come here’ motion.
Rest your tongue if you need to.
You’ve still got your hands.

Rhythm and pace

Play with different amounts of pressure.
Gentler in the beginning, building with more and more pressure,
Start with slower movements and increase your pace slowly.
Move with her rhythm.

Orgasm

It’s not a race to orgasm.
Many women can’t climax through oral stimulation,
but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t make for great foreplay for penetrative sex.

If you want her to climax, rhythm counts.
Find a rhythm that she likes and don’t stop too soon.

In summary, cunnilingus requires variety and then consistency.

After orgasm, hold her, kiss her.
Stroke her.

So givers, I hope you learned how to please me.
I’ll be testing you all later.

You brought me here to tell me something.

OK, it’s time, like now is the time.

Now is the time to hear it.

You know how big a World War fan I am.

Yes.

Well, World War I.
Taking it back!
The British
Intelligence Service. MI6.
James Bond.

Yes. Yes.

They’re playing around
with an invisible ink, of course, right?

Of course.

This dude Walter Kirk,
who is the head of military intelligence
at the time.

He wrote a little something in his diary,
Alright he says, ‘heard from Cumming
the best invisible ink is semen.’

Wait.
What? Semen?

Yes.

And who’s Cumming?

He’s Captain Sir Mansfield Cumming.
It’s a dude, it’s a guy he was not only a guy,
he was a founder
and head of MI6 at the time.

You’re telling me the founder
and head of MI6? Cumming?

Yeah.

Discovered that semen was usable
for a new invisible ink.

That’s exactly what I’m-

I just wanted to relay that.
Make sure that that’s what you said.

It is.
OK, so one of his officers
let me quote something that
they wrote in their diary:

Secret inks were our stock in trade
and all were anxious to obtain
some, which came from a natural source.
I shall never forget
Captain Cumming’s
delight at the announcement
that a member of his team found
that semen could not be detected
by iodine vapors.

Oh yeah, I’m sure Cumming would have been delighted.

Oh, I’m sure he absolutely was.

OK.

OK, so get this
so then, he declares,

To every man his own stylo.

Which makes sense, because that’s a more
readily available product, right?

Right.

And then if you want a change up scents,
you just eat like pineapple or asparagus
or garlic.

Right?

That’s gross.

Well, well, actually, wait-
OK so one of the one of the spies
he kept all of his ink supply in a bottle

Smart.

He just did it, right?
You can’t always have that fresh product readily available.

Been there.

Yes. It’s not that easy. OK.
But, the problem with that is his letters
they started to smell.

Yeah, a little pungent, if I may say so.

So
Captain Cumming
had to declare that
you gotta have fresh product.
You got to have it fresh.
Every letter needs to be fresh.

When might we be expecting the ink?

Almost, Captain.
Oh, it’s close!

Fun times.

I know it.

Don’t I know it,
except for the man
who came up and discovered the ink.
Not fun times for him.

No, what was it?
What happened?

OK, so Cumming
had to get rid of him
because all of his colleagues
were accusing him of masturbating.

Our guy, poor guy.

In service of his country!

He’s doing – he’s doing a service.

All I’m saying is I’m about bonding, okay?

Sure. Yeah.

And there’s no, no better way to bond, I’m sure,
than playing around with another man’s semen.

Oh, no, no,

I’m just envisioning you
and I as like an MI6 agents in bed
lit by UV bulbs reading
semen coverage sheets of paper
that we’ve written to our penpals.

Dude that’s romantic.

Right? It is.

Those were the good old days.

Straight up.

Those were the good old days.

Classics.

I miss it.

The classics.

Yes, that’s what it was.

Foreplay. Where to begin…

One could say that foreplay is the erotic stimulation that precedes the act of intercourse,
often with the intent to arouse one’s partner, or partners if you prefer.

Also, creating a more pleasurable experience through the foreplay.

So question arises – what is this and how do we go about it?

In a very practical sense,
it means all of your actions and words throughout the entire day
could be interpreted as foreplay.
Therefore, it could be said that foreplay never starts and never ends.

Now, it should be noted that the word play in foreplay characterizes and summarizes the entire act.
It’s a very playful act that should be shared between two partners. Or three.

While there are exceptions to the rule,
most women need to feel desired, loved in order to want to have sex.
Yet for a man it is the act of sex that makes him feel loved.

While both sexes benefit from having a happy partner,
this communication and the foreplay,
the slight differences will be different depending on gender and individuality.

But enough of the meaning. Let’s discuss the how.

Let me make one thing perfectly clear first.
Foreplay is about the journey, not just destination.

Also, we must first examine the erogenous zones.
Now in literature, you might find them depicted as such,
as this particular one infuriates me because obviously it
generally oversimplifies the male genitalia.
That being said, men have done the bare minimum
to get into a woman’s underpanties for centuries now, so
I guess we can chalk this one up as equal.

But let’s now explore these erogenous zones
and how they help build the foreplay or ‘fore pleasure,’
as I call it in my literature.

Now, gentlemen, it’s very important that we restrain ourselves.
We must practice ultimate restraint and not go right for the genitalia.

Now, for example,
we might take a moment to stroke her hair gently,
and then maybe look down to the shoulders for a little massage
and then maybe a little kiss,
followed by ear nibble,
then move your way down to the … breasts,
cupping them lightly,
stroking the nipples till they’re perky and hard.
I find this makes them quite …
We must also make great pains to to show attention to the sides of the stomach
because these are also very powerful erogenous zones.

Now these choices can be yours.
Be creative.
Remember, this is a journey of discovery.

You must take great care to stimulate the most powerful erogenous zone:
The mind. Stimulating the mind alone with words and actions can make her
so wet in the underpanties that she will want you right then and there.

Now, modern technology has given us a hand
with something you may have heard of called the cell phone.
Or as the Germans say, the ‘handy.’
Sending a little flirty, arousing text message in the middle of the day might be just what you need.
These romantic messages could be anything
from asking your partner how the day is going to complimenting them.
Perhaps even some erotic photography.
Describe exactly what you’d want to be doing with them sexually.
That way, all day, the sexual tension and desire builds up.
Or, you could simply just say something like,
‘I can’t wait for you to get home so I can fuck your brains out.’

As previously discussed, a woman who feels supported
will clearly want to make the intercourse with you.
So a great way to make your lady feel pleased is to help around the house with chores.
Maybe satisfy her culinary desires with a house-cooked meal.
But don’t forget to wash the dishes.
Take out the trash, and while you’re at it,
give little Fritzy a walk.

Fundamentally speaking, being affectionate with a partner, caring, communicating,
possibly even seeking couples therapy if need be.
These are all ways of finding better sex in your relationship.

And Barbie, how does this make you feel?
No. Don’t tell me. Tell it to Ken.
Ken I want you to look- look Barbie in the eye as she tells you how she feels.

This is communication.
This is a foundation of a healthy relationship.
And, to quote myself, some looking and touching? Indispensable.

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